We got the letter in the mail yesterday about the child support hearing. Not only did they award the full amount that was requested, but they also made it retroactive to the date of the filing, which was like November, I think. NOT good! There is no way on God’s green earth that we can afford to pay that much every month, let alone catch up to four months back! It’s insane. I do not know what the heck is going to happen. The order says that it will be taken out of R’s wages, but they can’t do that because he is self-employed, so the company he leases on with does not do garnishment. So, we will be doing the very best that we can to send as much as we can every month. But I am very apprehensive about what will happen when we are unable to fulfill the amount of the court order. I really just wish that his ex would have had a heart and accepted our offer of the amount that we can reasonably pay, instead of being bitter. I don’t even know what it is that she is bitter about, but it’s clear that she is. I feel badly about that, because the last time we ever saw her or talked to her, it was all friendly and I had no clue there were any problems. I just hope that someone somewhere will have the heart to see that we are doing our very best to keep our heads above water right now and that we are not trying to shirk any responsibility, but just honestly don’t have the money! We are still trying to pay off the medical bills from J’s birth and subsequent hospitalization and he’s almost two years old! We don’t live the high life. We don’t even have cable or internet. We don’t go out to eat. We don’t go out for anything other than to buy food and diapers!
Honestly, I don’t know where I would be right now if it weren’t for my parents and other extended family! I just want to take the time to thank you all soooo much! From not having to drive to work every day, to not having to pay for daycare, to having virtually ALL of J’s clothes, shoes and toys given to us……..We are eternally grateful and hope that we never forget to show that. I assure you all that I take none of your generosity for granted! NONE!
God has truly blessed us with good family and friends, with our health, with our jobs, and we have a roof and clothes and food. So…..I will continue to chant my mantra: “I’m too blessed to be stressed.” Some days I have to work very very very hard to keep that in the front of my mind!
Heather I am so very sorry to hear this news.... I really wish R would have gone to the hearing but that is the past now and cannot be changed.. I wish I could give you a hug right now as I know you're so stressed..
ReplyDeleteJust know Bella and I will be praying for you guys.
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In regards to this blog...i am a single mother of 4 kids...i have two that live with me and two that live with their dad. My kids are my life and i would never question or regret that responsibilities of being a parent. Now i am still young (26) but my kids ages are 9,8,6, and 3. I can see where you are very upset especially when the economy is the way that it is. Times are very hard right now...but when is it our right as parents to complain about the amount of money it takes to care for a child. Children are a blessing through out the good times and the bad. When families are split up and are living in two different places it does not throw away that childs right to be taken care of by both parties. Since you know that being a parent is quite expensive it should be a relief that you know with the amount of money that you are having to pay for that child, he is being taken care of. We as parents need to focus more on the love and attentions our children are given opposed to the costs. Money is nothing... Our kids are everything...So instead of being so negative about the situation..be positive. He is being taken care of by a very lovong person who has put their life into him so he can have what he deserves. Try not to stress so much...Times are hard but dont the smiles on the childrens faces make it all worth while?
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